Catalina loves Q & A with January Seraph

Photo by Ian Rath / Fetishnation.com / JanuarySeraph.com

January Seraph is another of my crazy cool friends. You can find her on Myspace, SocialKink, Live Journal, Model Mayhem, One Model Place, and of course JanuarySeraph.com.

We met as a result of Marky D. Sade’s job as a fetish writer. He did an interview with her (which you can find still at SocialKink). We were talking about it one day and he said that he thought that she and I would like each other. So… here we are… months later and I’m trying to make a trip to L.A. to spend some time out there with her (and Berlin, Satine, and Mina Meow).

There’s more to January than a kinky fetish exhibitionist — she’s crazy smart, too! So read this little Q&A with January Seraph and get to know her a little. You’ll probably be surprised.

1. What is your favorite kind of cereal? (I have a thing for cereal)
With milk or without? With milk, I’d have to say Rice Krispies. Without milk, definitely Lucky Charms. I seriously have a sweet tooth and love the little marshmallows. When I was younger they made Rice Krispies with marshmallows, but I haven’t seen that for a long time. :-(

2. Do you ever feel like because sex is work that sometimes sex for pleasure is just a chore? How do you deal with that? Do you still enjoy vanilla sex (did you ever?)
I’ve had that problem in the past, but currently I have a partner that I’m REALLY into, and I rarely am not in the mood. :-) I have always enjoyed vanilla sex to some extent, but I have to REALLY be into someone to get into it, whereas if you add a little kink, a skill set or talents may outweigh an initial indifference on my part.

3. If there is one thing that you’d like to be known for, what is that?
Authenticity.

4. What did you do for work before you became a sex kitten fetish model?
My first jobs out of highschool were waiting tables. I got over that pretty fast, as I’d waited on tables in highschool for a few years already. Next, I worked in strip clubs on and off for about 7 years while I went to first Mills College and then The University of San Francisco off and on. Though I got close, I never graduated due to a lack of interest. I started off working at a risque full nude strip club (that shall remain unnamed) that had live sex shows between girls on stage as well as themed shows (like naughty nurse, fetish, hippie, schoolgirl, etc) between two or more girls. I had a great time there. Then I tried to be a little more conservative for a few years to please a boyfriend and worked only at topless clubs that were much less fun. After the boyfriend and I broke up I moved as far away as I could think to do, and ended up in Fort Lauderdale and Miami for the next year. While I was there I also worked at some strip clubs, was a hostess for a swinger’s event and started going to Fetish Factory Parties, where I started to really explore my interests. After a year I moved back to San Francisco for three months, had my first fetish photography shoot with Eric Kroll, and was hooked from then on out. I moved to Los Angeles to focus on my interests and create a life worth living. I started to become January after that.

5. What is your ultimate goal for your career?

You know, I’m not really sure. I suppose I’m just sort of going with the flow, with the ultimate goal being something rather abstract, like Maslow’s self actualization. My goals are more internal, about how I feel about myself, my relationships with others and the work that I’m doing, rather than being based on what kind of car I drive or how much money I make.

6. Do you think that the day will come when you’ll choose to or be forced to leave the industry (as we all get older…)? What do you plan to do after the adult career?
Right now I’m working on becoming more involved on the production side of my business. I not only have my site www.januaryseraph.com, but I’m partnered in two other projects that are about to launch membership sites, InescapableBondage.com and CBTandBallBusting.com. While I’m working on launching the membership portions of those sites, I have Clips4Sale.com stores going right now. (http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/17637, http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/18757) I also write for a fetish blog, www.fetishoverdose.com. So that if I want to stay in the industry as long as I want, I can, regardless of how I may end up looking. But, should I tire of this kinky industry I’m currently involved in, I’m pretty sure that doing something in real estate sales or development would be my next choice, though hopefully the market will turn itself around sometime soon.

7. So we’re friends… If my daughter decided that she wants to be the next January Seraph, would you encourage her or discourage her from doing that, and why? (not just Any girl, but MY girl in particular…or any friend’s child for that matter…)
I don’t think that’s a cut and dry answer. It depends on what her motivation would be. If she doesn’t feel good about herself to begin with and is trying to fix that through gaining other’s attention, then it’s not the right choice for her. If she is already a strong and confident female who has an exhibitionist in her alongside a kinky streak, then fetish/bdsm modeling would only enhance an already strong sense of self.

I know that for me, having worked in industries for almost a decade that are based almost purely on how I look, it raises some body image issues that I might never had had to deal with if I’d just stayed a normal course. Which is not to say that I’m unhappy with the decisions I’ve made, it’s just being honest about the fact that there are downfalls to what I do, at least for me. I’ve found that I’m happiest when I have other projects that actively engage my mind and create a little more balance between what’s internal and what’s external.

I’m not sure if that really answers your question? I guess I would say that rather than encourage or discourage anyone from making a choice like that (or any choice that might change the trajectory of their life), I’d like to have them informed as much as possible as to all of the different variables that might come into play for them, and let them make their own choice and try to be as supportive as possible no matter what their decision is.

8. How did you meet Berlin and Satine?
Berlin I had heard about from various sources before I actually met her. So when I did, I was nervous. And it turns out all the reports on her were true- she IS kinda crazy, she can be intimidating, and she is a TON of fun! We met on the set of FetishNation.com shoot almost a year ago. And I was smitten from that day forth.

Satine and I were trying to figure out what year we met recently. It’s either when I was 20 or 21, I can’t really figure it out. Satine and I used to live in San Francisco. A mutual friend brought me over to his house to meet his roommates at about 3:30 or four in the morning on some random night. Satine was still an art student and was scrambling to finish her final project. I generally distracted her while trying to “help”. :-) When I first met her, she was a really different person than she is now. But then again, so was I. Later, she ended up working in strip clubs, and for awhile we even worked in the same strip club, Hustler in San Francisco. I think it was while I was in Florida that she moved to Los Angeles to get involved in the fetish industry down here, and also started working in mainstream porn. Eventually I moved down here as well. Then she moved to Australia. Then she moved back. Now she’s my neighbor across the hall and we’re closer than we’ve ever been. I love her as much as I’ve ever loved a friend.

9. I know it’s kind of apples and oranges, but do you prefer to work with a dom or a domme when you do scenes as a sub?
I don’t actually have a preference. I think that both sexes bring a different kind of connection to the experience. Thus far, I feel more connected to the women I’ve worked with, but then I generally feel more connected to women in life anyways. I also think that women can be a little more vicious with each other than men can get away with being with women, or at least with me.

Do you prefer a male or female sub?
Topping is something that is relatively new to me, and I’m working on the confidence to do that well. So far, I have more fun topping men than I do topping women. But I think by the time I’m done learning about this side of myself, I’ll enjoy getting either sex to submit to me.

10. Is there a toy out there that you’d tell people is a MUST have? (for me it’s the Hitachi.)
Well, like all girls (at least the ones I know anyways) I love the Hitachi. BUT my absolute -favorite-toy-that-I-lust-after-and-must-have-but-sadly-don’t-own (yet) toy would be the Samurai. It’s a metal dildo with a handle in the shape of sword handle that is an attachment to a PES box. The first time I saw and used one was on a set with Christine Kessler. She brought it out and I said something to the effect of , “NO FUCKING WAY.” The idea of having something that big that had electrical current going through it INSIDE my pussy really freaked me out. But I’m a pushover and was talked into it. And I fell in love. After the scene I was begging her not to take it away, to let it live with me, that I’d take good care of it. But she took it home with her. So now I have a piggy bank that is dedicated just to my Samurai fund.

11. How is your place decorated? Do you have a theme?
I just moved into a new loft in a converted industrial building in downtown LA. The upstairs loft area has old art deco style antique pine furniture and a wrought iron bed. There’s a vanity, dressers, end tables. Downstairs most of my loft is dedicated to shooting space, so there are sets that I’m currently building as well as a lot of dungeon furniture. There’s a sort of raised stage area that overlooks downtown LA. If I were to describe my decorative style I would have to say for the most part it’s pretty utilitarian, with a fetish production slant.

12. Do you do anything that would really surprise most of the people that will read this? (like go to church lol)
I’m not sure if it’s surprising, but it’s something I’m proud of- I’m a recovering drug addict. When I moved to Los Angeles almost two years ago I decided it was time for me to address that. I’ve not only put a lot of work into my career while I’ve been in LA, I’ve put a lot of work into myself. I think that I’ve really overcome a dark part of my life.

13. What is your favorite webpage to kill time?
Ooohhhh.. I have lots! The Catalina and MarkyDSade family of blogs are the top ones, followed closely by Myspace.com, myfetishdiaryblog.com, lustlovelatex.com and perezhilton.com.

14. Do you have a personal quote or a mantra?
I don’t think that I do really.

15. (last one!) How do you respond to the stereotype that women who work in the sex industry are all fucked up and Daddy must have touched them…? Do you find that that’s true? Do you see yourself as one of them or one of the exceptions to the stereotype?
I think that there are definitely girls who have molestation in their background, but I wouldn’t say that it’s the norm. I certainly don’t have any sexual abuse related issues with my father, but have a deep level of sympathy for women who are dealing with those sorts of issues. There are definitely women who have drug and alcohol abuse problems as well. I used to be part of that category, but have worked really hard to move past that. For the most part, I find that the women in the adult/sex industry that I associate with are empowered individuals who aren’t afraid or ashamed of their own or anyone else’s sexuality, and have no qualms about doing what they love as a means to support themselves. It’s kind of a twist on the American Dream - find something that you love and make money and build a life for yourself doing it.

Catalina loves Sugasm (#131)

[Photo of Mz. Berlin by GwenMedia]

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #132? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
Kink
“A bill outlawing the possession of “extreme pornography” is set to become law next week.”

M is for Mine
“You comment on my wetness.”

The Story Behind the Waxing
“I tend to go to people that I trust really know what they are doing when it comes to my pussy.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Keeley Hazell Regrets

Editor’s Choice
The sadistic impulse

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Being the Receiver…
Desperate boy.
A Parity of Madams and Whores
Trapped
You say trannyboifag, I say trannyboifag

Sex Work
At Least My Vibrators Don’t Judge Me
Sex Worker Solidarity: Gracie

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Blowjob in the showers
Clarity
Drunk and horny
Flash #1 - Greedy
Two Minutes and 52 Seconds
Unicorn Sighting

Sex & Politics
Um. Pornography is in focus?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Another Gratuitous Picture Post
Back with HNT!
Half-Nekkid at the Beach
Lilaceous
Mirror Mirror
Monica - Drop On Jacuzzy
Pornsaint Kylie Ireland
Strange Sex Fantasies
Teen bobs on Ron Jeremy’s cock
Video: Long Distance Lovemaking

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Catalina loves Melvin Moten, Jr. (An interview with the fetish photographer behind Erocrush.com)
If You Were a Sex Toy, What Would You Be?
My IMsL 2008 Trip – Part 4
The Sexiest Form You Might Ever Fill Out
Shall We Play A Game?

BDSM & Fetish
Cerebral Trainee Subject: Susan
A day of torment (pt 2)
Dining Table Punishment Spanking
Dionysian Tales
Harmony Rose Is Dominated On The Training Of O
Other World Kingdom visit - Part 4
Submissive Little Darling
The Submissive Male Construct and Nice Guys
Weighty Matters

Sex Advice
A Little Lesson on Figging…
Sex Dates for Parents
Vaginal Fisting: What It Is and How to Do It

Catalina loves Ms. Nikki Nefarious (an interview with my dear friend)

Photo by Altered Aperture

[this is my favorite photo ever by Ms. Nikki Nefarious, Altered Aperture]

Ms. Nikki Nefarious is my closest friend (literally) of all the cool friends I’m interviewing for my blog. We try to spend time together every week, whether it’s just hanging out or we’re doing a shoot. Her house is the epitome of a happy little household with a kinky little twist. Nikki lives with her husband and best friend (Josh), her submissive (mia, which interestingly means ‘mine’ in Spanish), and their small zoo of cats and dogs. There’s always something cooking and they even have grape Kool-Aid!!

Before meeting her, I remember reading this article about her in Charlotte’s Creative Loafing and instantly fell in puppy love. She and I finally met, I think it was either due to my blog and SocialKink or mutual friends, and discovered that we had some weird cosmic connection. For example, she and I have grown up in the same town (different states) and we both had the same heart surgery (and woke up during surgery because we both have redhead anesthesia syndrome).

She is the 2008 Bondage Awards Bronze Medal Bondage Artist and Top Ten Photographer (yet she’s convinced that she’s not really a good photographer, go figure?!). Aside from her feature in Creative Loafing, her work was also published in Skin Two and Geeks Magazines.

Somewhere in there she also works full-time as the “Tom” of the fetish social networking site, SocialKink, and manages to be my friend and confidant.

1. How old were you when you got into the scene? Did you always know you had an interest in BDSM and fetish? How were you brought into the scene?
I have to say 18, right, that’s the legal age after all. I was into this stuff before I knew it had a name, especially with bondage. Neckties, belts, scarves…those were the tools of choice for me back in the day, though I had years of non-sexual rope bondage under my belt by high school. As far as other aspects of BDSM, they just came naturally. I had a nickname in high school, which was made in jest: Mistress. I don’t know, I guess some people are just born with it.

2. How did you end up being the Tom of Social Kink? Do you enjoy doing the Kink Report?
I started out doing project management for a couple of sites and endeavors, when SocialKink came about the powers-that-be just thought it would be a natural move to have me slide in as webmaster. I do enjoy Kink Report! It’s meant to be a fun interactive way to get education and entertainment to the community on the site. It changes up and we are learning as we go, but really the feedback from the site helps to mold how we do it, so it’s always interesting to hear what people have to say about it.

3. What is your favorite kind of cereal?

I don’t usually do breakfast, but sometimes I love cereal at night. As far as my favorite kind, I’d have to say the fruity sugary kind, especially FrankenBerry mmmmmm

4. Would you shine some light on the dynamic of the relationship between you, your husband, and your girl? Do you have separate relationships with each or is it more of a triad? What is the power dynamic in the triangle?
My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We’ve been together for a dozen years, literally. He and I are equal partners in our relationship. However I am bisexual and I have a need for a D/s relationship, hence mia. mia lives with Josh and I, but she belongs to me and I love her very much. We all live and work together, we have a lot of fun together, and really it’s the family I’ve always wanted.

5. How did you become a *good* photographer? I mean anyone can point and click, but you make art!
Oh! Wow, I don’t know how to respond to that. Art is so subjective,you know. My passion is capturing beauty. My photography “brand,” Altered Aperture, is basically a metaphor for opening up and changing the way you look at things. There’s really not enough beauty in the world sometimes, and damnit I try to find it where ever I can. There’s a gorgeous equation with combining lighting, angles, and passion; and when you focus that all on one subject, magic happens. I don’t really have a technique, I just sort of get a feel for what I’m doing, and then I just shoot from the heart.

6. If you could work with any photographer for the day, who would it be? How about any model?
Steve Diet Goedde. He’s such a nice person anyway and who wouldn’t want to spend a day working with someone you respect and get along with…I take that back, it wouldn’t be “working” but I think that’s the point after all. As far as models go, I’d have to say Kumi, she’s the perfect chameleon and I love the way she expresses a seemingly new and exciting persona in each set I’ve seen.

7. If you were given $10,000 specifically for a vacation with the caveat that you have to spend it all in one weekend, what would you do? It’s not for purchases, not for a new roof, paying the taxes - specifically you have to spend it ALL on your vacation.
Honestly I would hire Kumi, January Seraph, Satine Phoenix, Justine Joli, and Fivestar. I’d rent the studio above Mr S Leather in San Francisco. I’d do bondage shoots all day/weekend until my money ran out.

8. Do you think there is a conflict between being a feminist and a slave in the BDSM scene? If there is a conflict, then how do we resolve the conflict. Can one be a feminist and also be a good sub (giving up much of what feminists cling to as dogma.)
I don’t think there is a conflict at all. In a D/s relationship it is the slave who really has the power in the end. If a woman is self aware enough to know what she wants and what will give her the happy life she deserves, then by all means she should embrace this with pride. Her own power to live her life her way, even if that means giving up her power completely, is her birthright and no one should stand judge to that.

9. What’s your favorite video game?
Guitar Hero for Wii. At first I thought I sucked ass at it, turns out, I’m lefty!

10. How do models find you? How do you find them?
I have no idea how models find me, but they do somehow and they come from all over. I don’t have a website as yet, so maybe they’ve just seen my work out there and were interested in working we me too. I really don’t find models, every person I’ve worked with has come along my path in some random way or another and it just clicked. I must say living in the Bible Belt does give me a bit of limitation as there is a lot of interest coming from the opposite coast. I promise ladies, I’ll get to you somehow ;).

11. What book is on your nightstand right now?
Master Hans’ Daughter, Catch-22, The Lust Lizard of Melancholy Cove, and The Swiss Family Robinson (I like to read back through the old classics from time to time, they don’t make stories like they used to). Also I get bored easily and I like to read several books at a time, oddly enough it helps keep my focus.

12. Like I asked January — being immersed in sex in so many areas of your life — do you ever just feel “sexed” out? Do you ever take a break from BDSM and just live vanilla?
I feel that I have a happy balance of that aspect of my life. Honestly I’m not as surrounded by sex as one would think, given my occupation. But to me there are so many aspects of sex that it would take quite a bit to grow bored or “sexed out” so to speak. I don’t ever feel the need to break from BDSM to live vanilla because I don’t believe that I live either of those things…I just do what I do when I do what I do. Maybe it’s because I’m Gemini, or maybe it’s because I’m ADD, but I change up enough without giving myself time to grow stale with something ;)

13. When are you going to step from behind the camera and do some modeling again?
Again? I’m not sure if I ever started lol. I fully believe my role is behind the camera, I don’t think I have what it takes to model for anyone. I mean, I’d be curious, but I doubt there’d be much interest. It’d also depend heavily on who would take my photo, you know, I’m far to self-conscious to trust just anyone to make me look good in photos.

14. Do you still work as a dominatrix? How do you screen potential clients? What kinds of scenes interest you most?
I do the occasional scene but I am very, um, picky when it comes to people I will work with. I take all that I do to heart, work included, so if my heart isn’t in it I just can’t do it. Sometimes that’s limiting actually. I have to get to know a person before we work together, to make sure there are common interests. I use sessions as an outlet for myself, as well as an outlet for the client, so if there’s no connection there I just move on to the next. The kinds of scenes that interest me most are ones heavy with mental and physical bondage.

15. What is the weirdest request you’ve heard as a photographer, a rigger, a dominatrix… or all of the above.
Sadly I haven’t had any “weird” requests as a photog or rigger, well at least nothing I could consider weird, though I’d love for this to happen!! As far as Domination scenes, I’ve been requested by a straight male put an ad on Craigslist looking for another man to hook up with…I find that weird because I really had nothing to do with the scene at all, I was just a conduit via an internet personals site lol.

Catalina loves Asking Mz. Berlin 15 Questions

[photo by Ian Rath / Fetishnation.com]

In Mz. Berlin’s Myspace profile, Marky D. Sade commented on the picture above: ” You should be painted on the side of a B-52, to remind the boys what they’re fighting for. Good God, you’re breathtaking.”

It’s true. She’s a sexy pin-up girl (and a total dork). She and I have several things in common - we both like cats, corsets, hallucinogenics, and we both had a similar experience when reading, “Different Loving.”

Among other things, I love Mz. Berlin’s curves. Put her in a corset and she has a perfect hourglass figure. Marky D. Sade’s favorite thing — (sorry to objectify you, my friend) — her boobs. In fact, I really, sincerely, genuinely adore Mz. Berlin. She is a full-time fetish model, as well as an actress.

She’s starring in the GwenMedia and John Fitzgerald production of “Sisters”, alongside Madison Young, the kinky girl next door. Mz. Berlin says, “It’s a sick tale of domination, slavery and suffering. (*evil laugh*) In it, I commit the ultimate betrayal.” (hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.)

Mz. Berlin (www.mzberlin.net) is the second of my amazing friends to respond to my silly questions. I made up questions for each one of my friends (January Seraph, Mz. Berlin, Satine Phoenix, Ms. Nikki Nefarious, and Melvin Moten, Jr.) and these are Mz. Berlin’s:

1. Do you drive? What kind of car do you have?
I drive a Civic, but I really want a hot pink mini cooper. Or perhaps a fire engine red mini. My secret fantasy is to have a motorcycle, but I can barely handle a scooter when I’m forced to drive one in key west, so I doubt that will happen. Perhaps I will find a partner who’s willing to put me in a sidecar?

2. What is the view from your computer as you work on this?
I look out over Hollywood. Well, not really. I look out onto a busy street that is a part of Hollywood. But when I walk to get my Chai in the morning I am directly under, and looking at, the famous Hollywood sign. My goal is to have a bungalow a bit bigger than my current one in the Hollywood Hills.

3. What is your favorite cereal?
Captain Crunch if it’s late at night and Shredded Wheat in the morning.

4. When will you be visiting us for a little session with Marky D. Sade?
As soon as humanely possible!! I’d love to take a trip down south. But when will Catalina and Marky be making a trip west? How is fetish con looking this year? Hmmmmm? Let’s work it out!!

5. What is your favorite thing about living in L.A.? What do you miss most about the South?
My favorite thing about living in LA is all of options. I love how fast LA moves and grooves, and all of the options you have every day. I miss fried catfish, gumbo and chicory coffee the most when I think of home. As fabulous as LA is, they still haven’t mastered the art of Cajun cooking!! (Although the Gumbo Pot at the Fairfax Farmer’s Market is pretty close….)

6. In a scene with me, what role do you see yourself in - domme or sub?
Can we switch??

7. Do you ever feel resentment from women because of what you do?
Mostly they’re just curious. Whenever I do get negative vibes from women, it’s girls that don’t talk to me. Anyone that spends more than 2 seconds interacting with me knows I’m a total dork. (With killer shoes!)

8. Do you get a lot of fan email? Do you answer it all (yourself?)
I usually get 1-2 notes a day in my regular box. I do answer all of my mail, and have started fun and interesting conversations with people around the world because of it. I really enjoy corresponding with people who are into fetish or just curious and love exchanging ideas. Sometimes, I get a bit back logged with notes, but I try to answer all of them.

9. One thing has to go to save your life - your cell phone or your laptop - which one is it and why?
I don’t have a laptop. My weapon of choice is an Apple desktop. So, it would have to be my cell phone. With all the traveling I do and all the time I spend in my car, my cell is my link to my life. It keeps me in constant contact with the people I love and tolerate.

10. What did you do for your last birthday? Did you have cake? What flavor? Do you always have a special birthday dinner?
For my last birthday I went to the Cemetery Screening at Hollywood Forever of Harold and Maude. It is my favorite movie of all time, and they only show movies once. I went with my wife, Angel, my best friend Jen Sincero, my good friend Kat, my sort of slave, Bradley, and my best friend who is a guy, Brandon J. Christopher. (These are the people I would call from the cell phone!) We had wine, cheese, fruit and cupcakes. I wore a tiara. I personally like Red Velvet Cake with cream cheese icing and I ALWAYS wear a tiara and heels on my birthday. After the movie played, someone in the neighborhood set off a beautiful fireworks display. The night was perfect.

11. What did you want to be when you were a little girl?
An assassin. Is that weird or what?

12. How accurate do you think is the perception that women in the sex industry are working to pay for their next fix? Do you see substance abuse as rampant as the stereotype is? (I think popular perception is that everyone is wacked out on drugs all the time.)
I don’t think that drug use among the ladies that I encounter in the sex industry is any higher than those I encounter in the Burning Man community. A lot of them smoke pot (which is legal in CA) and occasionally they might have a crazy weekend on ecstasy. As far as hard-core drug abuse, I don’t see much of it.

13. Do you find that people expect you to be “on” all the time - sexually?
I don’t know what people expect of me.

14. Do you have to buy the clothes that you model in, are they provided for you, and if they are, do you get to keep them? Your wardrobe must be afuckinmazing.
Most of my clothing has been purchased by me or has been a gift. I’m a very lucky girl! My wardrobe has a lot of good staple pieces and I’m building it all the time. I look for vintage items at various stores in LA and SF, and I love the dresses from Trashy Diva in New Orleans. Chantal makes the prettiest larger-sized bras and Miss Sue Nice makes beautiful corsets.

15. What’s your idea of a perfect Saturday - no limits - anything you want.
I’d wake up, take a bath while smoking a cigarette and drinking a Starbucks Chai Latte (no fat, no water, no foam) that’s been delivered to me bath side. Then I’d put on my favorite corset and dress, along with heels and stockings and head out to Pasadena with my mad scientist to look at antiques and books after having breakfast sandwiches and organic fresh squeezed orange juice. This would be followed by a nap at my place, then an afternoon sensory dep experience at the hands of my tormentor before going out for dinner somewhere overlooking the ocean. I would then be chained into bed and we would watch a movie. (Right now we’re studying noir…)

Catalina loves Melvin Moten, Jr. (An interview with the fetish photographer behind Erocrush.com)

So it occurred to me that I am an idiot. I have the most amazing, interesting friends any girl could have - I should write about them! So I have sent out questions to my friends January Seraph, Mz. Berlin, Satine Phoenix, Ms. Nikki Nefarious, and Melvin Moten, Jr. Melvin is the first to respond, so Melvin goes first (in case you wondered how I picked.)

Melvin Moten, Jr. is a rigger and fetish photographer. His website, Erocrush, has been featured on my blog before. I fell in love with his work the first time I saw it! Real women. Melvin’s models are gorgeous, real women of all ages, ethnicities, sizes and looks.

I am currently writing the foreward to Melvin’s new book, as well as helping to decide on content. It’s so exciting to be a part of someone else’s project, and I am honored.

So here are my questions and Melvin’s answers. I hope you get a better idea of who Melvin is.

1. How did we meet?
I’m not totally sure how we met, but I think you emailed me, asking to use some of my images on your blog, which of course I was flattered and pleased about. It’s always fun for me to see how my work is viewed by a different audience than my usual and your audience didn’t let me down with a variety of opinions about the images you chose. I need to find that blog entry and bookmark it!

2. In your photos, do you do the rigging yourself?
I do the rigging in about 90% of my images — which is why it’s always so bad! Every now and then I find a really good rigger to do the work for me, which always makes things better. I’m planning my annual trip to Tampa for FetishCon ‘08 where I hope to have all the rigging done by people who know what they’re doing!

3. Do you know your models personally or how do you find them? Do you seek out a particular “type”?
There are so many interesting stories as to how I find people to work with…Some of them find me, sometimes I find and approach them and sometimes we literally stumble onto each other. For the last couple of years the most reliable way I’ve found subjects is through the ModelMayhem website. It’s an excellent source of talent on both sides of the lens.

I don’t really have a “type” that I look for…The only thing I’m really looking for is a person who is comfortable enough in their own skin to be able to trust what I’m trying to show and become a part of that vision. I never get over how many people fit that description!

4. Are you involved in the BDSM community? If so, how so? (are you a dom/sub/switch/lifestyle/24-7/etc.) What is your sexual orientation? Are you in a relationship currently?
I’d love to find a local BDSM community to be part of, but I live in a rather conservative town and the community is pretty far underground. I always joke that I know more about the scenes in Ohio and Michigan than I do in the city where I live and work. I hate to label myself, but if necessary I would refer to myself as a heterosexual submissive with a bicurious streak. I’m currently in a long-distance relationship with a female switch on the west coast.

5. Where is your work displayed/published/exhibited?
The easiest place to find my work is my website, www.erocrush.com. I don’t update it nearly as much as I should, but I try to keep a nice selection of images there. I also post new work regularly on Deviantart.com, where my screename is “Kentsoul”. If anyone reading this would like to find me on ModelMayhem, my member number is 2081.

I have a series of self-published books as well. Information on them can be found in the “shop” section of my website.

6. Do you make a living from your work? If so, what did you do before you made a living from your work?
Sadly, my work dosen’t even pay for itself, let alone support me. I don’t really mind that though, as not shooting for money empowers me to do exactly as I please artistically at all times. If I were running a paysite or something like that, I’d probably have to limit the types of people I work with as well as the subject matter that I shoot.

7. What are the first three bookmarks in your list in IE or Firefox?
The First three tags on my Firefox page are my Netflix Queue, my ModelMayhem page and my Google Reader blog feed.

8. Mac or PC?
Mac

9. What is your favorite cereal?
Right now I’m very fond of Captain Crunch Peanut Butter Crunch.

10. Do you feel any responsibility as a photographer for society’s perception of beauty?
I’m sure it sounds selfish, but the only thing I feel responsible for is the purity of my vision and living up to the trust my subjects place in my ability to create images that are honest and representative of both our personae. I’m afraid society is on it’s own.

11. Do you charge a fee or do you pay models? How does that work?
I work exclusively on a TF* or “trade” basis. Neither the model or I charge or receive money. The images [and rights to use them] are the only commodity that changes hands. Well occasionally someone buys lunch for the other, but that’s about it.

12. Do you have one single favorite photo?
I Can’t say I have a favorite image, but I would say the images that best articulates what I want to say currently is this one:

http://web.mac.com/melvinmoten/iWeb/erocrush/one_files/Yes-sir-42779457.jpg

13. Do you like Coldplay?
I’m very fond of the song “Speed of Sound”, but other than than I don’t know a lot of their material.

14. Do you direct your models or do they usually have ideas and poses and concepts planned out?
I try to achieve a 50/50 split between what i direct and what the model does during a shoot. Sometimes what results is a bit more the model and sometimes it’s a bit more my direction, but my hope is always an even balance.

I never make extensive plans for what I’m going to do. More often than not I come up with a sensation or an emotion I want to discuss in the images and we take it from there.

15. Do the pictures that you take represent your interests and fetishes or do you take them with an audience in mind?
I consider every image I make a “self-portrait”. My interests and desires are always present. A friend once told me that any lover I had could look at my work and know what would give me the most pleasure and I think that’s a very accurate statement.

Catalina loves Violet Hill (Coldplay)

Finally!  Coldplay is about to release their new album, entitled Viva la Vida.

You can hear one of the songs from the album by going to Coldplay.com.  For today only you can download (for free) the song, Violet Hill.  It’s amazing, of course!

Catalina loves Sugasm #129

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #130? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
April Showers Bring May Flowers: Part II“As mentioned earlier, this is one of the biggest hurdles to overcome; this is also where mind over matter comes into play.”

Au revoir
“In the life of an eclectic slut, however, these are all warning signs.”

Ode to Anal: Why?
“Really, for me, it was the first, and one of my foremost, all encompassing sexual acts.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Soviet Erotica

Editor’s Choice
Catalina loves Real Women

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
A Damaged Girl
Decoding More Dominant Personal Ads
Half-Nekkid on Sunday Morning
Inconvenient
“You’ve Gotta Be a Dude”: Sorry?

Sex Advice
7 Tips for Swallowing Semen
The E-Spot: No Picnic

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Black and White

Dreaming of Sleep
Epicurean
Glitter Is The Herpes Of Craft Supplies
Guest Posting - Franka
Last Night’s Swinger Party
Missed Moments
Rules Of Play
Sucking the cowboy
Temptation
V and the Red Shoes

Sex Work
Crossdressing Session 1
Of Working Girls, Working Together & Weekends Away

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Camila | Table top (Hegre Art)
Its Spring!
Luba - sagittarius
Paradise Hotel 2 hottie Stephanie in sexy bikini pics
Physique
Playboy College Girls - Rebecca Matheson
Spanked HNT!

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Cult of Gracie Radio
DC Madam Found Guilty On Four Counts
Drive-thru Strip Club
Impertinent Question: Would You Participate in an Orgy?
Interview with Donna George Storey on erotica and Sally Rand
Just Released on DVD: Tara & Code Vol. 3!
Millian Blue HotMovies Interview
Now I Am Three
Post-Show Gossip
Safer Sex t-shirt design contest!
Too hot for Dallas!

BDSM & Fetish
Brought to Tears
Discipline…
Evil playground
Fantasy (Part 1)
My Dominant Submissive
On the bottom (part 2)
One of My Fave Ways to Cocktease…
Other World Kingdom visit - Part 1
Standing orgasm
The sum of her parts
Torture Consultant
Writers’s Conference

Catalina loves Talking On The Phone (Niteflirt)

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So enough people have brought it to my attention that I finally signed up for Niteflirt. This means that for something like $3.50 a minute you can call me up and talk to me. Whatever you want to talk about - fetish, BDSM, sex, advice, or just to hear my pretty voice (you know you want to!).

You click on the button:

and Niteflirt connects your phone to my phone and we talk. I think it’s pretty nifty.

Catalina loves Sexy Sex Kitten Satine

Photography by Christine Kessler (OMG, her work is amazing!!)

I love it that out of the blue, at 8:44pm last night, my phone did it’s little chirpy thing and a message appeared from Satine Phoenix. It simply said,

Miao! Purr

Here, kitty kitty! Catalina wants to pet you.

Catalina loves Real Women

What is wrong with people?! Just today I was reading this post by Radical Vixen about a client of hers who insults her on a regular basis, the latest insult being “You know if you lost 10 pounds you’d look really tight.”

Wow, I couldn’t believe what I read. Just this morning a potential client of mine said, “You never told me that you are a BBW. I think you should disclose that.”

My response, “Well, I didn’t disclose that because I don’t see myself as a BBW. I am a size 8. A size 8 is only BBW in the modeling world.” (Vixen proudly states she is a size 9).

There is a reason why real women can’t live up to the ridiculous standard of beauty that our society has created. Watch the video below. You’ll see how, from start to finish, real women are manipulated (digitally and physically) to achieve the look you see on billboards.

Still, what ever happened to politeness and manners? The golden rule? Compassion? Empathy?

Catalina loves 127 Sugasms

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #128? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
My life as a Female
“His reply was instant: “You are a man”.”

Crisp
“I found my eyes unable to leave the curves of her ass, everything else out of focus.”

Ripping yourself a new one
“What’s the most ludicrous porn scene you ever saw?”

Mr. Sugasm Himself (one from the vaults)
How to Choose an Affiliate Program

Editor’s Choice
Cream and Sugar

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Feeling safe
How Butch is Butch and how Femme is Femme?
Of Art Nouveau & Sublime Curves
Say Hello to Nanna, Nonno.
The Secret of Polyamory
Why Flirting Doesn’t Work

Sex Work
New At Nuts4chic - The Story Of Justin, A Male Escort
No Tact

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Blow by blow (1)
Door Number Two
Fellatrices: Phantom Blowjob
Flight of Fantasy
Fun at glory hole
Gay Threesome
Good Friday
Is there a polite way to ask a girl…
Reawakening the Temptress…It Must Be Spring
So long
Sometimes it pays to love the one your with
Teasing…
Therapy
To Avoid Waste, One Must Be Profligate
An Unnecessary Journey

Sex Advice
Impertinent Question: Do You Role-Play in the Bedroom?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Half-Nekkid with New Pumps
Hardcore double penetration in gangbang
Hot Blonde from Petter Hegre
MC Nudes: Luciana, Nina, Susana Spears & Zoe
Peaches in lingerie
Spanked Naked in Semi-Public
Sum Myself Up in Six Words?

Sex Humor
Discovery of Coital “Safe House” Debunks Sex Research Findings

BDSM & Fetish
Catalina loves Kinky Tea Parties
Hypnosis, spanking and sex
My first master
Object of His Attention

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Of Ilsa and her ilk
Sabrina Fox Bound And Forced To Cum On Sex And Submission
The Whole Chicken’s Blatantly Self-Promoting Anniversary Contest

Catalina loves a January Seraph Sugasm

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #127? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
Up Your Bum
“Now, every mainstream porn film seems to include anal sex as part of the sequence”

A Moment Captured
“Right now I am looking out down at the street from my window and my fingers have found their way to my soft wet labia.”

Things Every Man Should Own/Know/Hear
“You can also give the controller to her, or use it yourself, and play with the power of the vibrations.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself (one from the vaults)
The New York Times’ Best Porn Articles

Editor’s Choice
Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy #1

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

BDSM & Fetish
Coming Over
Counting the days
How Much Pain Can You Take?
Kinkfest 2008 Report
Need - Part II.
Piss off
Pride Cometh
The Punishment List - F/m Spanking Video
Spanking and wanking
Subordinate, me

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Fear of Rejection
Let’s talk about being bi
Sally Kern Does NOT Speak For Me (Redux)
When it all went horribly wrong…
Why I Enjoy Public Sex
Why Marriage?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Blonde MILF is pounded hard in Gangbang
Grenian | Cikita
Pornsaint Nico Elise
Sexy Brunette Domino
Vanessa - Flower Power

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
April Is Orgasm Month!
Catalina loves The Bondage Awards
Chanta Rose Dominates Mz. Berlin And Sabrina Fox On Chanta’s Bitches
eXcessica! (Calling All Writers…)
Fetish Model Wenona In Predicament and Suffocation Bondage on Water Bondage
Kicking Consent at Podophila
Some Positive News for Camgirls
Spray-On Condom in a Can
Weighting for a Great CBT Toy

Sex Work
The Dirty Nasty Truth
One Week Later…
The Porn Dilemma - Sometimes Forums Make Me Mad

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Captivating the college girl part two
Crush
Filling her up with my fingers
Garden Variety
Mine
My New York Indiscretion: The Conclusion
Twisted Tongue Dreams and Tongue Twister Scenes

Catalina loves Kinky Tea Parties

[This is cross-posted with permission from Social Kink, where it was originally posted in the forums. Join Social Kink and join in the conversation.]

Hello everyone. i recently had a session with Mistress Catalina. i travel for business so i was able to take a Saturday for a session. The session was more than i ever could have hoped for!

i met Mistress Catalina at her home Saturday morning. She inspected me, i had shaved, but She was not impressed and gave me my very first waxing! She somehow managed to turn that into an erotic experience. Then She had me change into my black and white french maid outfit and commanded me to straighten Her house and get started on the refreshments.

i cooked and cleaned up while She watched and relaxed. Every now and then She would come behind me and inspect what I had just done. She was quick to correct my mistakes with a swat of Her crop to my thighs. At one point i spilled some sugar on the floor and She had me get on hands and knees with my lacey knickers around my ankles and scrub the mess while She spanked my ass with Her hand. Once i was done with that i went to change into my pretty blue party dress. i wanted to be the spitting image of the perfect sissy maid for Her.

Finally the doorbell rang and two beautiful women were waiting at the door. i thought i would die right there, i was expecting them to come one at a time. Forcing myself to breathe i took their coats and escorted them, one on each arm into the livingroom. i didn’t dare look at their faces, i just kept my eyes on the floor. Mistress Catalina, of course, noticed and asked me if i was admiring their shoes. i couldn’t lie and told her that i loved the shoes and thought they were very pretty, and i curtsied. i was never told the names of the guests and i was never introduced to them, instead i was treated as the sissy maid i was.

Mistress Catalina invited Her guess to join Her at the table, and i went to each one pouring tea, starting with Mistress Catalina. Once i was done i went back around to each guest holding out a plate of sandwiches, pate, and bruchetta then i took my place kneeling by Mistress’s feet. After a while She told me that i should be put to better use as She slowly removed Her shoes, then She told the others to do the same. i positioned myself under the table in the middle and started with Mistress’s feet and then on to the other two. i was in heaven. Every so often, while i was massaging someone’s foot She would slid her stocking foot up my arm or back just to tease me. After seemingly no time, dessert was called for and i made rounds with plates of cupcakes, muffins, and tarts that i had made.

i was just about to kneel again when She ordered me to drop to hands and knees, then She got up and lifted my dress up over my head and started asking Her guests if they liked my lacy panties. She spanked me hard for a while as she talked about how pretty i looked and how dirty i was getting my dress because i was on the floor like a whore. She then invited Her guests to come and spank me. I heard one of the women whispering to Mistress Catalina, and She replied “Oh yes, seems this one isn’t as innocent as she appears, she likes to be kicked in the balls.” my heart nearly stopped, i bared heard Her command to remove my panties. i’m not sure which guest it was, but suddenly i felt a stockinged foot caress my bare balls and cock and then kick swifty and firmly, but not too hard, i jumped and squealed. Mistress Catalina said that it wasn’t becoming of a lady to squeal, so She put my panties in my mouth and told me to keep still and quiet like a good girl. All the while one of Her guest was still stroking and kicking my cock and balls while i was on my knees.

Mistress Catalina left the room for a moment without word, and i was very afraid as to what would happen next. When She came in, She was wearing a strap on!! i had told Her of this fantasy of Mine, but i did not expect it to happen! She stood over me and told me to show Her what a horny girl i was. i used my mouth on Her while Her guests returned to the table to watch. i thought i would explode. Once She was satisfied She had me get back on hands and knees as She walked behind me. Her guests were telling me what a slut i was, and how i needed to be taught a lesson. Mistress teased me at first, and then She slowly and agonizingly entered me and brought my deepest fantasy to life, right there in front of on audience. i though i would burst, i had to hold back the tears of joy. In the end i was a puddle on the floor as She resumed Her tea party.

After desert was finished and the conversation died, i was brought back by a hand gently smoothing my hair and a sweet voice cooing in my ear “jill, My party has finished, you may clean up now” i got up in a haze and cleaned the table, dishes, and put everything away while Mistress shared more conversation with Her friends. Once i was done She gave me a hug, and i gave her the tribute i had brought, plus the new pair of shoes i got Her as a gift. She even let me put them on Her feet before i left.

Catalina loves Tits For Troops (.net)

Are you a marine?  Catalina loves Marines!

A while back my friends started doing a little Tits for Troops post weekly on their blog, until they found out that the troops (who are fighting for freedom) weren’t allowed to read their blog.  Kind of ironic, no?  They, being smarter than the censors who attempt to stop free speech, started a Yahoo Group that the troops could access through email.  Sadly, my friends are no longer writing their blog, but the archives are still there if you’d like to go back and take a look.

Now, Tits for Troops is found at http://titsfortroops.net and also can be accessed through Yahoo Groups.

So click and bookmark - updates are frequent and the women are real!

Catalina loves HNT Challenges

guess who

This week’s HNT is brought to you by a friend of mine who has been featured on this blog before.  Can you tell whose bum this is?  I feel like there should be a prize if someone can guess correctly.  I just can’t figure out what the prize should be.

Catalina loves The Bondage Awards

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This is my chance to give all of you submissives out there a task! Go to The Bondage Awards and cast your votes. Don’t forget to bookmark the page and vote every single day.

Here are my personal favorites:

Best Model - Berlin. Mz. Berlin to you, actually! Mz. Berlin is everywhere - The Training of O, Chanta’s Bitches, and all over our blogs!

Best Rigger - Ms. Nikki Nefarious. Now you all know I love Ms. Nefarious. You know she’s a fantastic (magician) photographer, but did you also know she is an expert rigger? Her work is featured all over and she is well-respected within the community as a rigger. She’s so teeny tiny to be so badass!

Best Photographer - Altered Aperture. Lately if you look at my best pictures (take for example, the one above this post) you’ll see they all come from the same photographer. Altered Aperture has become a well-known name in fetish photography.

Best Comic Artist - Satine Phoenix. She’s a hottie McHotHot, a painslut kitten, model, actress, and artist. Oh, it’s almost too much to bear!

Catalina loves Caterina

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[Photography by Altered Aperture]

Have you met my twin? Caterina.

No, don’t worry — I’m still a redhead, I just was playing around with wigs at Nikki’s the other night and this is one of the pictures that resulted. So take a minute to do us both a favor and give some feedback. What do you think?

Catalina loves Gertrude’s Legs

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Isn’t my friend, Gertrude, hot?!

This is a picture from our weekend together in Shreveport.  Sorry that I haven’t written about our experience together, yet.  I will, I promise!   I took a little vacation over Spring Break, but I’m back and ready to document my sexy adventures again!

Catalina loves Sugasm (#123)

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[Photo of Catalina by Altered Aperture]

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #124? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
A Seven Letter Word for Flowers
“I breathed into your neck, brushing my lips against your skin.”

Breakfast In Bed
“I rolled her over onto her back and she spread her legs willingly.”

Inked
“How quaint to be wooed with a soft brushing of lips over my fingers.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
L.A. Bondage

Editor’s Choice
Male spankees and the female gaze

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #124? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
A Seven Letter Word for Flowers
“I breathed into your neck, brushing my lips against your skin.”

Breakfast In Bed
“I rolled her over onto her back and she spread her legs willingly.”

Inked
“How quaint to be wooed with a soft brushing of lips over my fingers.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
L.A. Bondage

Editor’s Choice
Male spankees and the female gaze

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Blowing Cold
Catalina loves Fetish Friday Pictures
Corset Model Mz. Berlin Is Pin Up Fabulous In This Lovely Pink Corset
Dressed to the nines -HNT
Half-Nekkid with a Strap-On
Hiroshima Circus
The Ideal Man (video)
Jelena Jensen
That Smile

Sex Advice
Pleasure Her With Pearls

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Balcony Fun - Repost
Caught Pt 3
A good time with the neighbor
The Hospital
My wife’s first bi-curious romp
Observations and Suggestions Upon Having Fucked Simultaneously Two Other Sex Bloggers
An Officer and a Gentleman…
Playing
Renewal
The Stranger’s Words
Technology-Foreplay-Sex

BDSM & Fetish