Catalina Loves

(Photography by Altered Aperture)

Yep, that’s my cock! (he he, it always makes me giggle to say that)

Today is New Toy Tuesday and it’s time to talk strap-ons. I think that strap-on dildos are a bit of a mystery to the average girl. We want to try one out, but it’s really hard to know what kind to get. I have a couple of strap-ons because, quite frankly, I use them for work all the time. Strap-on play is wildly popular. It’s not just for lesbians. More heterosexual couples are exploring strap-on play than ever before. Even big, badass Doms like Marky D. Sade dabble now and then in strap-on play and the men that I see for strap-on play frequently in my business as a professional dominatrix are straight men who want to explore and are too afraid to share that with their wives. Think about it, if you were gay, you’d want to be fucked by a Man, not a woman with a strap-on. Still need more evidence? How about if I tell you that “Pegging” is always in my top 10 search terms when I analyze my blog’s statistics.

Strap-on play is really intimidating at first, if you ask me. You really have to be very comfortable with your partner. Both partners are vulnerable at first - she because she’s never been in this masculine position before, and he because he must set aside the social conditioning that teaches men that assplay = gay. I think, though, that this is one of the reasons why strap-on play seems very intimate to me. Just bringing up the subject requires a leap of faith for most people.

Not only is there the mental obstacle to overcome with strap-on play, but logistically it looks very intimidating. How do I get into that thing? And of course, the question remains, “What position is best?” Most women have never fucked anybody from behind, for example, so it’s a little awkward at first and that can be frightening - nobody wants to look foolish in front of their lover.

Well, I’m here to tell you that once you get past these things, strap on play is fun! Once you find the right harness for you and you can overcome whatever mental things you have to overcome, you can just experiment and play. It’s kind of like being young again, in that you have to figure it all out for the first time. The first time you look down at your mate sucking your cock, you’ll be sold. I pretty much guarantee it.

So now it comes down to finding the right harness. There are several types. After using the Flame Harness Kit for a few weeks now, I feel really good about recommending it to you, dear reader. It’s perfect for beginners. It comes ready to go, right out of the packaging, with a little surprise — there is a little bullet tucked in the harness that sits in just the right place to stimulate your clit while you are wearing it. The straps are super easy to adjust. You can just put it on like you’re putting on your pants and pull the ends to tighten (and then I always tuck them in under a strap in the back to keep them from hanging in the way). An added bonus is that it adjusts for women with hips up to 50″, which is nice, since we aren’t all Barbie.

The Flame Harness Kit comes with a silicone dildo, however, the dildo that comes with it might be a little much for beginners. The nice thing about this harness, though, is that you can change out the dildo. Vibe Review has an entire page of harness-compatible dildos. My recommendation for beginners to strap-on play is the Silk Lover Dildo. The size, shape, and material make this a perfect starter dildo for strap on play, if you ask me (and it’s boilable, bleachable, and dishwasher-safe… cleanliness is next to Godliness).

Another of my own personal favorites right now is the Peek-A-Boo Harness. It’s a clear, vinyl g-string harness with a 3-way adjustable strap that fits hips up to 52″. A good g-string harness can be really difficult to find! And of course, being a corset-loving kind of girl, I really like the Corsette Harness.

So now you have everything you need except for a willing partner. If you are really interested in finding a willing victim volunteer, you could always place an ad on your local Craigslist. There is no shortage of men interested in finding a pegging partner. Play smart and play safe! If you need even more inspiration, take a look at my strap-on fantasy on Mr. and Mrs. Kink.

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