Catalina Loves

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Marky D. Sade recently sent me some questions, as I’ve been on an interview kick. In case you missed it, two other friends have sent me questions that have been answered on Catalina Says. One is pretty nice, the other is pretty naughty. This one is a mixture of both. Enjoy :)

When you created Catalina, back on MySpace, did you have any idea that you would end up a Mistress with a sex blog network, and a PR firm?

Big Question!  No Way! i started it strictly for interacting with You. At the time, You were working for AEBN and so my intention was to flirt with You on Your myspace page and give Your readers something interesting to come back for. But then, i grew into myself. You encouraged me to keep moving forward, onward, upward.

The Mistress thing just happened on its own as people approached me to become my submissive after i expressed interest. i made a business out of it.  I started out in the scene as a Domme, apprenticing with some of the best, and then i met my first Master and explored submissive life and lost touch with that side of me.  It is nice to have it back.  i am really hoping to dive deeper.  at one time i was trained to do sounding and cath play, and i would like to get back to that.  i would also like to do more CBT.

The blog network just happened, as Catalina Loves grew it made sense to expand. Also, You are fairly limited on Marky D. Sade. Content-wise it is a bondage blog, which didn’t give You a place to post anything else. The nice thing about the three blogs that we work on together, Corset and Collar, Breathplay, and Mr. and Mrs. Kink, is that our interests intersect like a Venn diagram to create some really nice stuff that i wouldn’t have otherwise created alone.

Quid Pro Quo, our PR and Marketing firm, is in its childhood still. It was a logical move. We know everybody…content producers, photographers, models, website owners, Doms, Subs, bloggers, programmers, graphic artists…it’s a natural path for us. We know how to get people seen. It’s that simple. Marketing v2.0 is a result of being a social nerd. I can do .css and .html, and I am a social creature.  I work basically 24 hours a day, but the cool thing about that is my “work” consists of talking to people I respect and admire.  Oh, poor me, I had to talk to Mz. Berlin today about her latest Clips4Sale project.  Woe is me! :)

When you domme, what is your ideal scene?

Ideally there is some spanking (I love to give spankings), some tease and denial, some anal play (for them, not me), a little humiliation, a little medical play, light CBT, and a strap-on.  I do it because I enjoy it, so if I don’t enjoy the scene, I’ll turn it down.   And of course, chemistry counts - an ideal scene has in it a beautiful submissive who clicks with me.

Do you see any conflict with being My slut (submissive) and being almost exclusively dominant in your personal/professional life?

At times.  It can be extremely difficult for me to get into a submissive state of mind when i have just come home from a session, for example.  i need a strong man to be stronger than i am.  i am usually only attracted to the Alphaest of males for that reason (a new Catalina word).  i don’t ever want to have to give up being a strong and powerful force to be reckoned with - i just want a stronger and more powerful force to put me in my place now and then. A place to be little. A place to be nothing more than a slut wishing to please, made for fucking.

Catalina loves her collar. What does your collar mean to you?

It is a physical representation of power exchange to me.  if i am wearing my collar, it means that i am not in charge. simple.  it means i can let my guard down and feel safely protected by my Master.  it means i am loved and taken care of.

Being a polyglot is one of your neatest traits. Have you ever done a scene in another language?

Yes!  i loved it!  Twice - two very different scenes.  One of them was straight up teamwork with her Master and the other was a situation where the husband was a submissive cuckold.   i heard through a little bird that Mz. Berlin is interested in doing a bilingual interrogation scene - maybe i will get to interrogate Mz.
Berlin some day en español ;-)

When did you first realize you were bi?

i went through a straight phase, then a lesbian phase, then another straight phase (with my first Master) and finally balanced in the middle somewhere around 27.  When i met MDS, i identified as a bisexual lesbian.  men, not so much, but that was a preference, not really a result of being homosexual.

When did you first realize you were kinky?

At 18, when the man that i loved and married right out of high school came out to me as a bisexual transvestite.  because i loved him, i tried out things for the first time that i might not have otherwise tried out.

When did you first realize you were a slut?

College - round 2.  When i went back to school in my later 20’s,

When did you first realize you were My slut?

I am?  Oh, just kidding (ut oh, spankings!)  The first time that You put my collar on me, spanked me, choked me, pulled my hair, and made me say it over and over again while forcing orgasm after orgasm out of me.

What’s your version of how we met and fell in love?

I was at our friend, (L’s), for a party.  The night began with dropping ecstasy and ended with me being fucked on the bathroom floor by Your best friend at the time (A), which i think i wrote about on Catalina Loves.  We crossed paths again at (L’s) the next month for Thanksgiving and the night began again with dropping X.  Or so I thought.  As it turned out, i was the only one that did.  little did i know that the plan was to have Catalina for dessert.  it ended up in You, me, (L), and (A) in bed together.  i remember You were teasing my ass for the longest time and then (L) asked me something about why You hadn’t fucked me yet and i responded with something like, “i’m waiting for Him to fuck me in the ass.”  That was our first time.

Two weeks later You came to stay for the weekend and 9 years have since passed.

What’s your favorite kind of pizza?

Thinnest of crusts, pineapple, bacon, and ham.  No oregano, damnit! (Dominos always screws that part up).  But I would rather have cereal.

What’s your favorite Coldplay song, at the moment? Album?

Favorite song right now:  It’s a tie between Lost (acoustic), which is found on the X and Y Bonus Album and Lovers In Japan, from the new album.  There is a version of Lost on the new album, Viva la Vida (which came in the mail yesterday!!!!!) but it isn’t as good.  Favorite album right now is easily Viva la Vida because it’s new, so i can listen to it over and over and over and over.  i did just today see and hear the first live performance of Lovers In Japan (from a show last week) and it was unbelievable.  i want to get it posted on ColdplayLiveArchive.com this weekend.

Tell the nice people how much you love My cum.

In the moment a simple splash of Your cum on my body makes me quiver and moan.  During sex i fantasize about having it everywhere…dripping from my lips because my mouth is too full of it.  Yum.  i would have to say that especially in the moment - nothing makes me happier than Your cum.

People may not know that you are very intelligent, and hold an advanced degree. Would you tell us your field of interest, and your specialty?

People may not know that i am very intelligent???  How could this be?  my undergraduate degree is in Spanish language and literature with a minor in computer and information science.  my graduate degree is in Romance Languages, with Spanish and Italian as my two languages (you have to have two at least).  my master’s thesis is on double bind theory in María de Zayas‘ book, Desengaños amorosos.  i did, though, actually specialize in translation and interpretation and studied with a very famous Sor Juana translator, Amanda Powell.   Still awake?  That’s why i don’t talk about my research very much - it bores people.

What’s your opinion on the place of intimacy within the D/s paradigm?

Tricky! D/s is inherently intimate in a way and in other ways it seems like the furthest thing from it.  How can one claim that hanging someone by their nipples and calling them a whore is intimacy, for example?  Because.  Trust = Intimacy to me.  D/s without trust is just roleplaying with spanking.   D/s requires open communication, shared secrets (You know things that no one else knows from taking me There), and inmense trust.  Intimacy is built upon trust, in my world.  There is nothing more intimate, to me, than a partner who knows every corner of your brain. To me, a good Dom balances being gentle and intimately attached with being in control.  I think that our marriage is better as a result of the intimacy we share   This makes it a very symbiotic relationship as You strive to meet all of those needs that only You know while i am doing the same.  Yin-Yang, John-Yoko, Marky-Catalina, Win-Win.